Tantrums, tears and big feelings are a normal part of being little. Preschool is where children learn healthy ways to express them.
Step 1: Name the feeling
Children can't manage a feeling they can't name. We teach words like happy, sad, angry, scared, excited, frustrated and proud through stories, songs, mirrors and feelings charts. Our Emoji Day is a favourite way to practise!
Step 2: Accept all feelings
"It's okay to feel angry." All feelings are allowed; some actions (like hitting) aren't.
Step 3: Learn calming tools
Balloon breathing, a hug from a soft toy, a quiet corner, squeezing play-dough or drawing the feeling.
Step 4: Use words
"I'm angry because he took my block." Teachers help children find words and solve the problem together.
How teachers help
At Wings and Waves, teachers stay calm, get down to the child's level, name the feeling, comfort and then guide. Small classes mean there's time for these moments.
Tips for parents
- Name your own feelings: "I'm feeling tired, so I'm going to sit for a bit."
- Read books about emotions
- Stay calm during meltdowns, and talk once your child is calm
- Praise them when they use words for feelings
Questions parents ask
Are tantrums normal at age 3 or 4?
Yes. They usually reduce as language and self-control develop.
Should I ignore tantrums?
Stay close and calm, keep your child safe, and avoid giving in to demands. Talk about it when they're calm.